Leaders value themselves
- Leaders follow people who are in life where they want to be and are willing to teach them
- Leaders set up performance goals that drive them
- Leaders work on their influencers – they consciously work on reading positive material, and guard their eye and ear gates
Leaders manage their emotions
- Leaders respect others, and never give in
- Leaders learn to communicate in the language people understand, behaviorally
- Leaders try not to be magic, but develop other people to be the magic too
- Leaders often step back and look at the big picture, and not get bogged down by flaws in the details
- Leaders don’t get trapped by external comparisons, but look inward for motivation
- Leaders are excited and passionate, but wirh a purpose
Leaders value people
- Leaders focus on what people are doing right, see people beyond their current state. People generally rise to our level of expectation, especially those who respect us most
- Leaders influence people positively. They try to be adders (adding value to and grow people) or multipliers (they teach others how to grow and add value to others)
- Leaders ask questions to learn from people, finish before people want them to and develop a genuine interest in people
- Leaders seek first to understand, then to be understood
- Leaders proactively invest in the relationships that matter as they realize that is easier to lead a team that wants to win with them than one that has to win with them
Leaders discipline themselves
- Leaders start their day with a guaranteed win – doing what they say they would
- Leaders work to put in PEAK (perspective, expertise, action, and knowledge) performance
- Leaders prepare – they plan the work, and then work the plan
- Leaders are finishers. They pick one thing that will have the most positive impact, and focus most of their energy on that
- Leaders consistently check their actions and align them with their values
Leaders manage their attitude
- Leaders own circumstances, rather than be a victim
- Leaders have a strong sense of responsibility, vision, and respect from people around them
- Leaders accept change, and don’t look for staying in their comfort zone. They work their way from comfort cycle to energizing cycle
- Leaders focus on techniques, but focus more on principles
- Leaders keep their head clean by keeping our clutter, and keep feeding it good stuff
- Leaders take charge and ownership, rather than apply blame and give excuses
When to meditate
There are two times a day that are the most conducive to meditation: right before you go to bed at night and right after you get up in the morning.
That’s because when you fall asleep, you naturally shift though the entire spectrum of brain-wave states, going from your waking, beta state to the slower alpha state, when you close your eyes, to the slower-still theta state, when you’re half-asleep and half-awake, all the way down to the deep-sleep delta brain-wave state. And when you wake up in the morning, you do the same thing in reverse: rising from delta to theta to alpha to beta, where you’re fully awake and conscious.
Where to meditate
Choose a place where you won’t be distracted. Pick a quiet place where you can be alone and uninterrupted – a place that you can return to every day and use as your regular, sacred meditation spot.
How to meditate
Sit up straight and keep your spine erect. Your body should be relaxed, but your mind needs to stay focused, so don’t be so relaxed that you fall asleep. As you begin the meditation, close your eyes and take a few slow, deep breaths. Soon you should drop from a beta brain-wave state into an alpha state. This more restful, but still focused, state activates your frontal lobe. With practice you’ll be able to slow your brain waves down even further. Theta is the brain-wave state where the body is asleep but the mind is awake, and it’s where you can more readily change your body’s automatic programs.
How long to meditate
While your meditation will generally last between 45 minutes and an hour, allow yourself plenty of time, if possible, to settle your mind before you begin. If you need to finish by a certain time, set an alarm to go off ten minutes before you have to end the meditation, to give you an opportunity to finish the session without having to come to an abrupt stop.
A state of being is a magnetic force that draws events equal to that state of being. Set a firm intention in your mind and combine it with an elevated emotion in your body, with a goal to recondition the body to a new mind, instead of continuing to condition it with survival emotions.
If you can experience a healing over and over again in the inner world of thoughts and feelings, then in time, that healing should finally manifest as an outer experience. In other words, if you mentally rehearse that unknown future with a clear intention and an elevated emotion, and do it repeatedly, then based on what you’ve learned, you should have real neuroplastic changes in your brain and epigenetic changes in your body.
So instead of aligning your faith (believing in a thought more than anything else) and your belief in something known, you can place your attention on an unknown possibility.
By emotionally embracing the experience in your mind enough times, can you move from the immaterial to the material—from thought to reality
Newborns spend the vast majority of their days in the delta brain-wave state. During the first 12 years, children gradually progress to a theta state and then to an alpha state, before they get to the beta state they’ll spend most of their adulthood in. As you read earlier, theta and alpha are highly suggestible brain-wave states. Young children don’t yet have an analytical mind to edit or to make sense of what happens to them, so all of the information they absorb from their experiences is encoded directly into their subconscious minds. Because of their increased suggestibility, the moment they feel emotionally altered from some experience, they pay attention to whoever or whatever caused it and so are conditioned to form associative memories connecting that cause to the emotion of the experience itself. If it’s a parent, then over time, children will attach to that caregiver and think that the emotions they feel from the experience are normal, because they don’t yet have the ability to analyze the situation. This is how early-childhood experiences become subconscious states of being.
By focusing more on what you do want and less on what you don’t want, you can call into existence whatever you desire and simultaneously “fade away” what you don’t want by no longer giving it your attention. Where you place your attention is where you place your energy. Once you fix your attention or your awareness or your mind on possibility, you place your energy there as well. As a result, you’re affecting matter with your attention or observation.
The physical universe may look as if it’s made up of only material matter, but in truth, it shares a field of information (the quantum field) that unifies matter and energy so intimately that it’s impossible to consider them as separate entities. That’s because all particles are connected in an immaterial invisible field of information beyond space and time—and that field is made of consciousness (thought) and energy (frequency, the speed at which things vibrate).
As you embrace a heightened, emotional creative state like inspiration, empowerment, gratitude, or invincibility, you’re causing your atoms to spin faster, just like the fan blades, and to broadcast a stronger energy field around your body, which affects your physical matter.
By holding a clear and firm intention and heightening our emotional energy, you have to create a new internal experience in our minds and bodies that’s greater than the past external experience.
If you could access a new state of being through meditation by combining a clear intention with getting in touch with that heightened state of emotion that was mentioned earlier, and you got up jazzed and on fire about what you were creating every day, you’d finally start coming out of your resting state.
You’d then be in a new state of being, with a different attitude, belief, and perception, no longer reacting to the same things in the same way, because now your environment would no longer control how you think and feel. You’d then be making new choices and demonstrating new behaviors, which would lead to new experiences and new emotions. And so you’d then turn into a new and different personality.
This process, if you do it right, actually repatterns your brain and changes your biology; the new experience will reorganize the old programming, and in so doing, it will remove the neurological evidence of that past experience.
Your thoughts and feelings come from your past memories. If you think and feel a certain way, you begin to create an attitude.
An attitude is a cycle of short-term thoughts and feelings experienced over and over again. Attitudes are shortened states of being. If you string a series of attitudes together, you create a belief.
Beliefs are more elongated states of being and tend to become subconscious. When you add beliefs together, you create a perception.
Your perceptions have everything to do with the choices you make, the behaviors you exhibit, the relationships you chose, and the realities you create.
So the only way to change your beliefs and perceptions is to change your thoughts and feelings, which will create and trigger new “memories”. These “memories” can be what you will them to be.
Humans have several measurable brain-wave frequencies, and the slower the brain-wave state we’re in, the deeper we go into the inner world of the subconscious mind. In order of slowest to fastest, the brain-wave states are delta (deep, restorative sleep—totally unconscious), theta (a twilight state between deep sleep and wakefulness), alpha (the creative, imaginative state), beta (conscious thought), and gamma (elevated states of consciousness).
Beta is our everyday waking state. When we’re in beta, the thinking brain, or neocortex, is processing all of the incoming sensory data and creating meaning between our outer and inner worlds.
Alpha is our relaxation state, where we pay less attention to the outer world and start to pay more attention to our inner world. When we’re in alpha, we’re in a light state of meditation; you could also call that imagination or daydreaming.
Theta is a kind of twilight state where we’re half-awake and half-asleep (often described as “mind awake, body asleep”). In theta, we can access the subconscious, because the analytical mind isn’t operating—we’re mostly in our inner world.
The whole purpose of meditation is to move our consciousness beyond the analytical mind and into deeper levels of consciousness. In meditation, we move not just from conscious mind to subconscious mind, we go from clinging to the known to embracing the unknown.
But it can be challenging…. here’s why
The analytical neocortex uses all of the five senses to determine reality. It’s very preoccupied with putting all of its awareness on the body, the environment, and time. We overfocus on problems, obsess about our looks, dwell on our pain, think about how little time we have to do what we need to do, and rush to get things done.
But help is here…
But there are practical, scientifically proven ways exist for us to accomplish this feat and make it a skill. The brain state we happen to be in at any given time has a huge effect on how suggestible we are at that moment. Once we learn what these different states are and how to recognize them when we’re in them, we can train ourselves to move from one state to another.
Humans have several measurable brain-wave frequencies, and the slower the brain-wave state we’re in, the deeper we go into the inner world of the subconscious mind. The trick is to go from fast to slow wave state.
The analytical mind (or the critical mind) is that part of the mind you consciously use and are aware of. It’s a function of the thinking neocortex—the part of the brain that’s the seat of your conscious awareness; that thinks, observes, and remembers things; and that resolves problems.
Level of suggestibility is inversely related to your analytical thinking. As your analytical mind is heightened, your suggestibility to new outcomes decreases.
You might have studied different subjects in college or lived with parents who reinforced the mechanisms of rational thought when you were young, or maybe it’s just part of your nature.
Meditation is one way to bypass the critical mind and move into the subconscious. The whole purpose of meditation is to move your awareness beyond your analytical mind and pay attention to your inner thoughts and feelings.